I know Valentine’s sometimes feels a bit, well icky, like another excuse for the corporate bigwigs to maximise profits and turn everything red and covered in love hearts.
But… what if we changed that narrative and embraced the day as an excuse to love ourselves just a little bit more.
I know life is busy but it’s important to carve some time just for you to recharge your batteries and show yourself some love.
You could choose a lovely massage or facial or even make an afternoon of it and go in the steam room too.
You can sit in the private lounge alone with no interruptions and sip on hot tea and read your book in peace.
If this sounds like your vibe then don’t leave it too long to get in touch and save your spot.
To delve into this a bit deeper I would like to highlight how we could be kinder to ourselves everyday. Our inner voice doesn’t always speak nicely to us and we end up being critical of our flaws rather than embracing all things we are grateful for and that we love about ourselves.
And before you say it, yes we have been taught not be too proud, not to love ourselves too much as it looks a bit self indulgent. But to be honest I think its gone so far the other way now that we have forgotten how to even look in the mirror without finding fault.
It doesn’t help that we are shown images of supposedly perfect bodies online every day on our social media feed and it’s important to remember that no one is perfect and the things you see online are simply a highlight reel of their best bits. They would have you believe everyday is like a Pinterest page and we know in reality it certainly is not.
So I implore you to look in the mirror today and find something to love about yourself. Those stretch marks are a beautiful map of your journey to this point in your life, your deliciously doughy curvy bottom is simply divine.
Whether you’ve got a few bony bits or wobbly bits, just give them some love and massage some sumptuous body lotions in to your skin, all the while thanking your body for being strong and supporting you this far.
Everyone has hang ups but I bet if you got a group of women together they would say all the things they loved about each other but not themselves. Such as: ooh I wish I had your boobs, or my hair isn’t as glossy as yours, or wow I love your curves, you get the idea. In fact I have witnessed this with my own eyes on many occasions. We are our own biggest critic but are happy to champion other women to make them feel good.
I really don’t know why we can’t speak nicely to ourselves. It maybe that we have been told in the past that we were not good enough or have been compared to other women in a bad light by ex partners. Or maybe our parents made us feel inadequate. Whatever the underlying reason we can work through this together to build your self esteem and confidence and make you feel good.
The midlife chapter can be challenging too as these feelings seem to come more to the surface and can make you feel worse than ever. You greave for the past versions of yourself as you try let go of who you used to be to enter this new way of thinking. This can be difficult when you carry old patterns forward. You begin questioning your worth and your whole reason for being here.
It’s big and it does need to be addressed at some point before it gets too heavy to carry, so if you’re struggling with any of the things mentioned in this blog please get in touch to see how we can help you get your va va voom back .
We want you to love yourself like the goddess you are and embrace all the gifts and wonderful things that life has in store for you.
If you would like to have a chat about the things mentioned in this blog then get in touch to see how we can help you feel the best you ever have.
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