Christmas again …

How are we all feeling about Christmas this year ?

I suppose it’s better than previous pandemic years but it has its own doom and gloom. What with all the scaremongery in the news about the cost of living crisis along with usual stuff.

It’s more important than ever to be grateful for what we have and try not to chase what we don’t.

There has always been a pinch in the air around this time of year, I believe it is due to the constant pressure of performing to please friends and family and now followers—whoever they are ? And now to display our ”perfect” lives on social media, which we get judged for it not being as perfect as it should be.

We need to change the narrative and teach the next generation this doesn’t have to be the way forward. We can look back on wartimes and other times of economic crises to see that its not what’s on the table it’s who’s around it that matters. We just do not need anymore clutter or useless items that will probably end up in landfill.

We need to realise how lucky we are to have the abundance of love around us and embrace our love for ourselves in better ways to show our children that this is okay. We need to make a stand and speak our truth with confidence to show people we do not listen to their judgements. This can mean simply declining invitations you previously felt compelled to attend, or simply putting boundaries in place that means you don’t end up being taken advantage of.

Also not following trends to have more and more things you need to buy to make you happy. I mean how many coats and hats does one person need. The way they advertise it every year you need a new one or the latest style. Its simply not necessary. Don’t even get me started on phones and gadgets.

Or the Gift giving, the pressure to find the perfect gift and spend money we do not have on things we do not need every year gets people into debt and depression, lets just stop once and for all.

We can show the next generation that a deep love for oneself creates happiness and a feeling of contentment. This should be a true feeling and come from oneself. I believe that venturing down a path to explore these things can be beneficial.

The treatments we offer at The Powder Room Birstall facilitate this way of thinking and can help focus your mind on the things that will help these feelings grow. As well as giving you the tools to be more assertive and not conform to the pressures we face.

My team and I are passionate about empowering you and making you feel heard. We want to get this message across to teenagers so they feel better in themselves as its worse for them to settle into much these days without the constant barrage of notifications on their phones that they use to validate their worth.

Social media has a lot to answer for, but we need to show them ways to cope with life’s tribulations and give them tools to manage feelings of overwhelm. We also need to lead by example and let our actions show them how much more simple life can be without the distractions and the need for instant gratification.

It is an addiction, we are constantly chasing the next hit of dopamine whether its from online purchases or social media likes for instant validation. This is not a true reflection of how people in real life perceive you and one should not rely on such attention to measure your self worth.

We need to feel that worth from deep within ourselves. It can be validated by actions and acts of kindness from others rather than empty words that do more harm than good in the long run.

Our women’s circle events offer a safe space to connect with others and share our feelings so we can work together to form deeper connections with ourselves to nurture our lives and live more authentically for our own needs rather than being pressured to conform to the system that has been created for us.

There are so many ways to live well and help each other out– for instance:

  • Supporting your local high street shops for anything you do need to buy
  • Buying locally farmed produce
  • Make do and mend rather than disposing of so many things to landfill
  • Recycle and reuse what we cam
  • Use cash as much as possible
  • Use your own currency of exchange of services for each other where possible
  • Create a community to work with

 

So many more ideas I would love to hear your suggestions  please email me or comment.

Lets look forward to the future together.